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What makes people charming?

  1. They listen twice as much as they speak. They know when to speak and when to listen, and they try not to interrupt.
  2. They smell good. If you smell like a bin, put on some deodorant. It will instantly make you more charming.
  3. They have topics to discuss, a wide array of interests, and can have conversations with anyone. This is why it’s good to read books and have genuine interests. Speaking to someone who is passionate about something is much better than speaking to someone who fails to find joy in anything.
  4. Be precise with your speech. If it takes you 10 minutes to say something that someone else could say in 1 minute, then you need to work on your reading, writing and speaking skills. If you can be precise with your speech, you save time, can have better conversations, and can easily get your point across.
  5. Don’t insult people. If the only thing you say to others is badmouthing people in general, you’ll not charm them; you’ll repel them. Benjamin Franklin said, “Speak ill of no man,” partly because it’s useless to talk bad about someone. It’s different if someone breaks the law or something of that nature because you wouldn’t necessarily badmouth them; you’d just see that justice is served.
  6. Work on your looks and style. More aesthetic and appealing people are generally nicer to look at than ugly people. Sorry to say it, but it is the truth. Research shows that more attractive people get better jobs with higher salaries. Working on your looks and style will inevitably add to your charm.
  7. Be as successful as you can be. Generally, people would rather spend time with successful, responsible people than with people who blame the world for their lack of results in life.
  8. Be as authentic as possible. People would rather spend time with someone who is genuine and themselves than someone who tries to be someone else. Ultimately, the latter isn’t sustainable, and the real person will emerge in the end. If you show your real side, then people can either like you for who you are or they can’t. Never try to make someone like you. It always backfires. Never try to curry favour.
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