- Delete their number, old pictures and text messages. If they want to contact you they will let you know.
- Become the best version of yourself, you’ll naturally attract better potential partners if you’re trying to improve yourself. No one wants to be in a relationship with a loser.
- Dont be needy, sometimes when you come out of a relationship, you feel downtrodden and because of this you may feel like getting straight back into another relationship is the answer. Its not. Be careful who you pick as your spouse. Be sure to go out with them because you want to not because you feel lacking emotionally.
- Feel whatever emotions you have deeply they will eventually pass.
- Engage in hobbies and activities you enjoy when you are engaged in hobbies you enjoy you wont feel sad or lonely because you’ll be enthralled in what you’re doing.
- Get out of the house, exercise or take a walk. Too often when we stay in the house and ponder things we ruminate and it makes us feel worse. Get outside and blow those cobwebs of the mind away.
- Spend time with friends and family, there’s no better feeling than having a good laugh with friends and family it will pull you out of your slump.
- Read. When we read we stop focusing on our thoughts and feelings and instead focus on the words on a page, reading helps me get in a trace sort of state, it’s saved me more times than I can remember. No matter what happens in my life I know I have good books to read. So I’ll be happy.
Be Happy They’re Gone
You had some good times.
You had some memories that will last forever.
They were just part of one chapter in your life.
And although you may have loved each other.
You didn’t love each other enough.
And that’s okay.
When my romantic relationships have ended in the past.
Especially when I’ve been the one getting dumped.
I’ve blamed myself.
Thoughts like these have came to mind:
Was it that thing I did or didn’t do that caused her to break up with me?
Why wasn’t I good enough?
Maybe I’ll just be single forever.
Where instead it’s more practical to:
Take what you can from the relationship experience, and if you feel you made mistakes, apply the lessons learned to future relationships.
Ensure you don’t blame yourself. If the relationship was going to work, it would have. And all relationships go through challenges. If your relationship ended at the first sign of challenges, then it was never the right relationship.
Make sure you carefully screen through future potential partners.
It’s very unlikely that the first person you date after breaking up with your ex will be the one.
You might meet your dream spouse on the first date of newly being single or the 100th.
It doesn’t really matter.
But what does matter is having no doubts about making someone your girlfriend.
Or boyfriend depending on your gender or sexual orientation.
Screening for the right partner is crucial.
You need to be very serious about screening your future potential partner.
Because if you don’t it could cause many issues in the future.
The most important thing to have with your spouse is not love.
Its compatibility.
If you’re not compatible with your spouse the relationship will eventually end.
For example, to be compatible with your spouse, you must have similar worldviews and values (if you’re religious, then sharing the same religion is vital).
Love Is A Choice
The key to lasting relationships is the shared commitment to making the decision to love one another unconditionally.
When love is conditional, i.e. based on whether you have x amount of money or x car or x size penis, it’s the worst love of all.
There’s a reason that many rich and famous athletes and celebrities choose to stay in a relationship with their high school sweethearts.
It’s because they know their spouse’s love is genuine and unconditional.
They loved each other when they were at their worst.
And now they love each other when they’re at their best.
As a rule of thumb: if you’re willing to love someone through the good times you need to be just as accepting and loving to them through the bad times ( which is often much more difficult).
The true test of one’s character is how they respond to challenges.
Do they rise to the occasion?
Or do they lose hope and give up?
We need to be the type of people who turns challenges into triumphs.
And this is the type of spouse we should look for as well.
Whatever happens in your life.
Try to respond to it like you chose life to happen that way.
It’s a much more helpful way of dealing with the world and people.
Complete acceptance.
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