- Experiencing the world and different activities. If you never try anything new, it will be impossible to find what you enjoy.
- Going out of your comfort zone. I recently flew to Rome, a place I’ve always wanted to go to, and I went solo. It helped me build so much confidence in myself.
- Eating healthily and working out. True happiness is being in impeccable health.
- Reading. When you read, you learn about some of the most interesting people who have graced this earth. It’s safe to say we can learn how to be happy from exceptional people. My favourite books are Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations, Principles by Ray Dalio and Benjamin Franklin’s Biography, An American Life. They taught me and helped me look at life through a different paradigm.
- Happiness is in doing things, not achieving things. For example, I love to read and write. No matter how many people read my posts or books I read, I love reading and writing, so I’ll continuously pursue them for their own sake.
- Don’t smoke, overdrink or do drugs. Never let anything or anyone overly infiltrate and compromise your mind. It’s all you have. I’ve done some of the most stupid and regretful things when I’ve been drunk.
- Engage in hobbies. We all like different things; experiment with hobbies, and you’ll eventually find hobbies you enjoy. Having activities we regularly do that we enjoy makes us happier.
- Get 8 hours of deep, quality sleep every night. This is the most underrated tip of all time.
- Change how you view negative situations and stressors. We can’t be happy all the time. Negative emotions serve a purpose; they help us avoid situations that we shouldn’t get involved in, and they’re just as important as positive emotions. For example, in poetry, writing, and music, some of the best artistic endeavours have come from a place of melancholic emotions. Art wouldn’t be so beautiful if only filled with positive emotions and fake smiles.
- Socialise. There’s no better sense of happiness than laughing with friends and family.
- Direct your life to some overall meaning. Whether that’s the goal of being an artist, a police officer, or a doctor, whatever it is, having something you’re aiming for in your life helps you get through the bad times because he who has a reason to live can get through any how.
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What’s The Secret To Happiness ( 11 Things That Help)
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Why It’s Important to Make Even Small Progress Towards Your Goals
You’re ahead of someone who isn’t trying, even if you take the smallest step.
Because every time we work towards a specific goal, we increase our chances of achieving that goal.
For example:
The more often you go to the gym, the more likely you are to be physically strong.
The more you read, the more you boost your erudition.
The more you write and post online, the more likely you are to build an audience.
You get the point.
But the more you get stuck in inertia and never put any effort into achieving your goals, the more likely you’ll stagnate and even get worse as time passes.
In my opinion, the best progress is slow progress.
Because slow progress is maintainable.
And progress is usually slow.
So be grateful for the progress you make, no matter how small.
It will spur you on to achieve more.
Here’s how I’m following my advice:
I’m writing at least 30 minutes per day.
I’m working out daily, even if that means only going on a walk ( but I strength train thrice weekly).
I’m reading daily.
So, if I complete these three tasks every day, I will have voted three times for myself to become a better person.
After a year, I would have voted 1095 times to become a better person.
Whenever we complete a habit that improves us, we vote for ourselves to become better people.
The secret to life is voting for yourself every day throughout your life.
If you start practising this advice now.
In a few years, you’ll be thanking me.
I’ve already witnessed the benefits of voting for yourself.
I learned this idea from James Clear, author of Atomic Habits.
I highly recommend you read Atomic Habits; It’s a great book.
If you can’t afford to pay for his book, you can read his articles for free on Jamesclear.com.
I have much more respect for the person in the arena fighting with his blood, sweat, and tears to actualise his potential than for the person who never has the courage to do anything worthwhile.
Start small, achieve big.
A journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step.
The key is to keep taking those steps.
Don’t give up after taking a few, like most people do.
Yes, you will doubt yourself.
But persevere.
If you do.
You’ll be unstoppable.
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How To Turn Your Life Around When It’s Going No Where
Unemployed?
Apply for jobs, no matter how beneath you they may seem. ( I used to be a pot washer for KFC.) You need to start somewhere.
Broke?
When you get your entry-level job, save at least 10% of your income every month until you have three months’ worth of income. This works well as a safety fund, which will support you if anything bad happens and you need to pay out sudden expenses. Once you have your safety fund, I’d start investing in the stock market, i.e., the S&P 500.
Miserable?
Start engaging in hobbies and activities that you enjoy for their own sake. I like reading, going on walks, playing chess, watching football, TV series, and films, and working out. You won’t have time to feel miserable when you’re engaged in activities you enjoy for their own sake.
Balding?
Join the club (the below picture shows my receding hairline).
Like many men I’ve faced this problem : it’s best to either shave your head, i.e., get a buzz cut, or get a hair transplant. Pick one. I don’t care enough about my hair to get a hair transplant; I’d rather put that money towards investments or a holiday.
Living with parents?
Use it to your advantage to try to climb the ladder in your entry-level role (even in jobs like working at Kentucky Fried Chicken KFC, you can earn a decent salary by climbing up the ladder), and eventually, you’ll earn enough money to rent your own place or maybe even buy your own house. While you’re living with your parents, you can save more, so make the most out of it.
Friendless?
Join meetup groups (ie meet up.com), and you’ll be able to meet like-minded people.
Pursue hobbies which will help you meet people who are interested in similar things to you. There are even apps where you can make friends. You could also reach out to some colleagues (when you get your job) or some old friends to rekindle old friendships.
Depressed and miserable?
Again, focus your energies on activities you enjoy. It’s almost impossible to feel depressed when you’re doing something you enjoy. If you feel miserable, maybe journal down why you feel that way. You may be able to untangle your mind on paper and find the root cause of your unhappiness. Once you know the root cause, you can take steps to become happier.
You can definitely turn your life around.
Many other people have.
So, if another human can do it.
So can you.
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How To Become Extraordinary (Do What The Extraordinary Do)
- Avoid doing what 99% of the population is doing. If you do the same as normal people, you get normal results.
- Get in the best shape possible, lift weights 3 times per week, eat healthily, get enough sleep, get stronger, et cetera. Wherever your body goes, your mind will follow. If you get in great physical shape, you are more likely to feel better mentality. Health is everything.
- Practice positive habits. I’ll give my example. These are the habits I try my best to stick to every day: I read, write, work out, go for a walk, tidy my house and meditate. You have everything to gain by following these habits and nothing to lose. Swap bad habits for good ones. To become extraordinary, we must win today and try to win every other day for the rest of our lives; if we do, we might become extraordinary. All we can do is the work, and that’s required every day.
- Get up early. Part of winning the day is winning the morning, so getting up early at 6 a.m. is usually best. I’m fully aware that people are on different work shifts, and so am I, so I replace getting up early with getting up several hours before my shift so I can work on myself.
- Read: to become extraordinary, we must determine what extraordinary means. We can only discover this by following our curiosities and becoming more erudite. Reading helps us find out what we want. The more you know, the more you can do, and the more you can do, the more opportunities you have to succeed.
- Read about extraordinary people and associate with exceptional people. By learning about the lives of the extraordinary, we can gain road maps for becoming extraordinary in our own lives. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with, so if you are friends with exceptional people, there is a good chance you’ll be extraordinary yourself.
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