Hello friend, I wrote a Quora answer that did very well, amassing 609 views, 12 upvotes, 7 comments, and 1 share.
The Quora answer was regarding the following question:
Why do older men date younger women?
Here is the exact breakdown I shared that resonated with so many people:
I would say that the main reason is because as men grow older, they’re still able to have children, whereas the older women get the less they can procreate, hence why women go through the menopause.
I think from a biological point of view, men’s bodies are just more resilient and have a window almost up to the point they die to have kids.
For example, legendary actor Robert Deniro had a baby with his girlfriend, Tiffany Chen, at the ripe age of 79. And Tiffany Chen, Roberts ‘ girlfriend, was 46 at the time.
Love isn’t always defined by how old you are
I know it’s easy to say, so and so is only getting in a relationship with that older guy for his money, and yes, in some cases, this may be true, but if two people are consenting adults and they love each other, what really is the problem?
I couldn’t care less if an older man dated a younger woman as long as they are both of legal age.
Sometimes, younger women want a well-established man
Some men never make the jump from boy to man, and so when a woman finds a real man with good character and who has proved this fact over the years, then it’s a safe choice for her to pursue him romantically.
In this age, when people are turning away from old-school traditional values and religion, a lot of men are losing sight of what it means to be a good man rather than a boy. They never learned how to become a true gentleman, and religion (Catholicism) offers, in my opinion, the best advice on how men can really be men.
Some women have dated men their age or younger and had no luck
When I’ve been on the dating app Hinge, I’ve come across many women saying in their bios that they want “a man with a plan”, and the truth is many men don’t even know who they are, never mind have a plan. The older a man gets, the more likely he is to stumble upon who he truly is and have a plan for his life. And women seem to love this, from my experience.
Because of the fountain of youth
Let’s face it, one of the main reasons older men date younger women is because of their looks; their skin is less saggy and more plump. The fountain of youth gives us beauty in its truest sense for a period of time, and then it never returns. It’s really no surprise that some men are into younger women for this reason.
Even though the woman may be younger than the man, if she’s a good person and so is he, and they want to build a beautiful life together, it doesn’t matter
My grandpa was 10 years older than my grandma, and he loved her with all of his heart. She died unexpectedly of cancer in her 50s.
Age is just a number to some extent, and if you get on well with someone, then age doesn’t really matter.
Closing thoughts
I’m 27 years old, and I would date a younger woman only if we got on well and had a similar worldview. But some women date younger men, and it really doesn’t matter. What is most important is to be young at heart.
“Don’t you know that it’s worth every treasure on earth
To be young at heart
For as rich as you are, it’s much better by far
To be young at heart.”
– Frank Sinatra
My opinion
I do find it slightly crazy that Robert De Niro had a child at his age, but who am I to judge? He seems happy in the picture at the start of this post and can clearly afford it. Kudos to him. But the only concern is that his daughter may not get to know him very well.
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