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1. Deadlift. Nothing strengthens the body and mind more than a heavy set of deadlifts.
2. Read about people who have suffered through tough times; you’ll learn valuable lessons about how they coped. My favourite book that depicts this point is Man’s Search for Meaning by Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl.
3. Look after your body. Healthy body, healthy mind. Where the body goes, the mind will follow. Work out, eat well, sleep well, etc. We’re all pretty fucked, we have our trauma and weaknesses in life but being healthy makes everything easier and being unhealthy makes life a struggle. Choose impeccable health.
4. Say no to instant gratification. In the famous marshmallow test study, kids were asked if they would like to eat the marshmallow upon being given the chance, and they also had the option to postpone eating it, which would allow them to eat another marshmallow later. Once these kids were followed up later (as adults), the kids who delayed instant gratification did much better and achieved much more in their lives than those who opted for instant gratification. Say no to porn. Say no to the doughnut. Say no to lying in. You get the point.
5. Read more, you’ll become more erudite. You’ll learn wisdom from great literature passed down through the millennia. You’ll learn time-tested heuristics to help you make sense of this complex world, which will forge your mind to diamond-grade strength.
6. Take a chill pill. Reduce your stress levels by doing breathing exercises, meditation, etc. Also, turn off the news that sensationalised garbage will curse your soul. Most news is fake news.
7. Reach out to friends. Regardless of who you are, you need a support network. Isolation kills. No man Is an island.
8. Go to therapy. I’ve been going to therapy for several months, and it’s helping me more than I ever thought it could. I’d urge everyone to go as early in their lives as possible. It enables you to deal with your trauma, and most of all, it helps you know yourself.

To Become Mentally Strong: Avoid Becoming Mentally Weak.

So, how do you become mentally weak?

1. You lack integrity and aren’t honest with yourself or others. This is a fragile way to be because part of self-mastery is being honest with yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with? If you aren’t honest with yourself, you’ll end up living someone else’s life. But if you’re honest with yourself, you can dictate your life to be what you want for yourself and your uniqueness, which is one of the cornerstones of a meaningful life.
2. Lacks self-control. Publilius Syrus once said, “Would you have a great empire? Rule over yourself”. The key to progress in the outside world is winning first at the inner game. First, rule over yourself. Then, as a byproduct, you’ll succeed in the outside world.
3. You can’t expand your time horizons. If you can’t plan a worthwhile goal for yourself that you might accomplish in ten or twenty years (e.g., a business, life goal, etc.), then I’m sorry, but you’re probably living for short-term instant gratification, e.g., junk food, porn, shitty TV, etc. The most meaningful things in life take work. But it’s the work that makes them meaningful.
4. Masking is something I’ve done my whole life by taking on the traits and mannerisms of the people around me to fit in; in other words, it’s adhering to the herd mentality. If you do this long enough, your subconscious will eventually resist, and it manifested to me as tiredness, anxiety, and depression. And now I don’t want to be anyone other than my best self. If people don’t like who that is. Fuck em.
5. They lack structure and routine. To do great things in this world, you must live consistently. It’s hard to squeeze the pith out of life when you’re sleeping in until noon most days. Have a consistent time you sleep and wake, and plan your life around it.