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When we want someone to change for the better, we often try to argue with them, to pursuade them towards our way of thinking.

But often this doesn’t work and can actually have the opposite effect to which you intend. When we try to persuade people through argument, they usually get more stubborn and entrenched in their own beliefs.

The best approach to win people over is to love your enemies, so to speak, because like Jesus says in the Bible “even sinners love those who love them.”

Because love is a very rare and precious commodity in this world, and it’s only when people feel loved, listened to, and cared about that you get them on your side.

Because it’s no good winning the battle if you lose the war, so to speak.

The best revenge is not to be like that

When dealing with someone who is difficult, vulgar and lacks respect, it can be easy to implicate them in their ugliness, but what good does it do?

It achieves nothing and only makes situations worse. So the only worthy and effective way to act is with love.

It’s perfectly fine to disagree with someone, but it must be out of love because if you fight fire with fire they’ll be on the wrong side forever.

An exception

The above is generally my attitude to most people, to kill with kindness.

But when people are genuinely having a negative impact on others, I may come across a bit more aggressive and use the odd curse word.

Because when you stay quiet, when people are being harmed, then you’re not loving anybody.

Loving people and staying silent are two completely different things. When I talk about love I’m not talking about the namby pamby kind.

What I mean when I say love is to will the good of the other person.

I want them to reach the highest good in their lives, I want them to get close to god, to heaven on earth, because it’s attainable to everyone.