Clean your butt, I know you can’t see it but clean it, it’s the hygienic thing to do.
Sleep 7–9 hours per night.
Eat 80–90% of your diet from whole foods, such as fruits and vegetables, lean meats, and grains.
To reduce stress levels, do meditation or belly breathing exercises, and identify the things in your life that are causing you stress so you can remove them and make your life as stress-free as possible.
Work out with weights at least three times per week. I follow the push, pull, and leg split training program.
Eat enough protein and fat. Aim for at least 30% protein and 25% fat in your diet. Protein is required to build and maintain muscle and soft tissue health, whereas fat is essential for good hair, nails, and hormone functions.
Limit alcohol to only a couple of drinks a week, and no, that doesn’t mean a couple of bottles of vodka.
Don’t smoke at all. Everyone knows how bad smoking is.
Hydrate—aim to drink at least 3- 4 litres of water per day. Being hydrated is essential for every physiological process in your body to function correctly.
Have good air quality in your home, open your windows several times daily, even if that means only opening them a crack.
Don’t drink caffeine after 11 A.m. Caffeine has a half-life of 6 hours. This means that it takes your body 6 hours to process only half the caffeine you’ve consumed. If you have no more caffeine after 11 AM, then when you go to sleep at an average of 11 p.m., the majority of the caffeine will be out of your system and It wil have a minimal impact on sleep.
Wash your hands, as per germ theory. Washing your hands ( and body) is essential to avoid bacterial diseases and infections. WASH YOUR BUTT.
Go on two daily 30-minute walks. In this Brave New World, we sit way too much. Getting out to walk is vital for our cardiovascular and back health. I get such a stiff back from sitting for too long.
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Over the years, I’ve had great sleep and sometimes poor sleep.
During the periods when my sleep has been good, there are certain things I almost instinctively do.
Use Ear Plugs I use the Loop reusable earplugs from Amazon. Naturally, I’m susceptible to noise when I sleep, so wearing earplugs is a must because if I don’t, the slightest noises wake me up. So, if you’re a light sleeper wearing earplugs is a necessity to boost your quality of sleep.
Have Black Out Curtains Or Wear A Sleep Mask
Blackout curtains are the best option; that way, you don’t have to rely on putting your sleep mask on every night. But in essence, they’re both effective because they do their job, which is to block out light. Naturally, when we are exposed to light at night, especially artificial light, this can affect our bodies’ production of the sleep hormone melatonin (the hormone responsible for making you sleepy). So if you try to make your room and house as dark as reasonably possible 1-2 hours before bed and sleep with a sleep mask on (or have black out curtains) then your bodies production of melatonin should be more effective throughout the night resulting in you falling asleep faster for longer and more deeply.
Eliminate Caffeine, Sugar, And Alcohol Completely Or Reduce Your Intake Of Them
I was unknowingly caffeine-dependent for the past couple of years. I’d have 4-5 coffees every day from when I woke up in the morning to around 4 pm. Caffeine undoubtedly affects your sleep because it’s a stimulant. Caffeine has a half-life of around 6 hours, so if you have a coffee at 4 pm then at 10 pm, half of the caffeine you ingested will still be in your body. This can dramatically affect your ability to fall asleep and stay asleep. So the remedy to this is either to completely eliminate caffeine or have it in the morning, say 10 am. Say, for example, you usually sleep at 11 pm. Then, if you had your caffeine at 10 am, the caffeine would be completely cleared out of your system at 11 pm because it would be 13 hours after you ingested the caffeine.
Alcohol, for some people, can help them fall asleep fast, but usually, the common experience is that people wake up several times during the night.
So, in essence, alcohol can help you fall asleep, but it affects your quality of sleep negatively due to persistent waking. Alcohol also dehydrates you, which also hurts sleep quality.
Eating too much sugar before sleeping isn’t helpful because consuming a large amount of sugar gives you a sugar rush ( a boost of energy), which is not what you want before sleeping.
Normally, this sugar rush is temporary and is followed by a drop in blood sugar or a crash after the initial insulin spike.
Instead of eating lots of sugar and junk, eat a diet rich in whole foods, lean meats, fruits, vegetables, and grains. You’ll find your body operates much better and more efficiently, and when your body is healthier, you’ll find your sleep is naturally better and you won’t need as much of it ( a personal observation).
Have A Consistent Sleep-wake Pattern.
This way your body will feel tired at night and you’ll wake up much easier on a morning.
If your sleep pattern is different, say you usually stay up until 2 a.m. Then you wouldn’t feel tired at your preferred bedtime of 10 p.m., and you would find it harder to wake up early in the morning.
The simple remedy is to get up at the same time every day, even if you didn’t sleep well the night before. This will make you extra tired the following night and make it much easier to fall asleep at the desired time.
The Bottom Line—If you wear earplugs, wear a sleep mask, or have blackout curtains, avoid or reduce your consumption of caffeine, alcohol, and sugar, and have a regular sleep-wake pattern, I guarantee that you’ll be doing the most essential things to boost your sleep quality.
I’ve massively got out of shape during the past year.
I’ve probably put on around 15 pounds of fat and lost significant muscle and strength.
My caffeine intake has gotten out of control, which has made me slightly anxious and jittery.
So here’s what I’m doing to get back on track:
I eat in a calorie deficit. This means eating around 1800 calories per day because I normally need around 2300 calories to maintain my weight.
So, you guessed it, I’m in a 500-calorie deficit every day.
If I maintain this deficit for seven days a week, I’ll lose one pound of fat each week.
This is because there are 3500 calories in a pound of fat.
And 500 x 7 = 3500.
The goal is to reach a body fat percentage of around 10% at the end of this fat loss phase.
Why did I get out of shape?
There are many reasons—call them excuses if you like—but here are the main reasons.
I had wrist surgery several months ago and haven’t been able to train properly for over a year.
This is the primary reason because, during the past year, my mental health has been at an all-time low and due to my injury it was impossible to train pain-free.
But I’m glad my wrist is improving, although it will be several months before it feels normal again.
Let’s talk about caffeine intake quickly.
Caffeine makes the world go round.
Most people have several coffees and teas per day.
They get dependent on the stuff.
And if you ever took a break from caffeine.
You’ll know you get a headache and general aches, which are withdrawal symptoms.
Too much caffeine gives you anxiety and the jitters.
I’ve been having too much and will not have any caffeine for the foreseeable future and see how things go.
I’ll keep you updated.
Anyway, I thought I’d share my current workout program, so here it is:
Day 1
Romanian deadlifts 3 x 10-20 reps.
Dumbbell row 3×10-20 reps.
Bicep curls 2×10-20 reps.
Day 2.
Dumbbell bench press 3x 10-20 reps.
Dumbbell shoulder press 3×10-20 reps.
Triceps push down 2 x 10-20 reps.
Day 3
Bulgarian split squats 3x 10-20 reps.
Lat pulldown 3×10-20 reps.
Calf raises 2x 10-20 reps.
Have at least one day off between workouts I train on Monday, Wednesday and Friday.
I’m working in the 10-20 rep range because it’s easier on your joints, whereas the heavier you lift, the more wear and tear you put on your joints.
Also, the reason I’m not doing conventional deadlifts and squats is because:
Romanian deadlifts are less stressful on your joints and body yet still work your posterior chain ( all the back musculature on the back of your body).
With conventional deadlifts and squats, I normally get too greedy and lift too much weight, increasing my likelihood of injury. By doing Romanian deadlifts and Bulgarian split squats, I’m performing extremely effective exercises but with less weight and a lower risk of injury.
Over the past year, I’ve been anything but healthy.
The goal is to focus on health over the next several months (and for the foreseeable future).
Better sleep.
Less anxiety.
Lower body fat percentage.
More muscle.
More energy.
More confidence.
And I will update you with the results once I’ve completed this phase.
Like always, I will continue to write.
But if you’re feeling stuck or want to focus more on your health, Join me on this adventure.
I hope that we can both get as healthy as possible.
Because health is truly wealth.
“Fitness isn’t everything, but everything is harder if you aren’t fit” – Mike Matthews
Regarding my nutrition, I’m eating mainly whole foods, i.e., unprocessed meats, grains, fish, fruit, vegetables, etc.
Anything that isn’t massively altered from its original form.
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You can either go to the gym, or you can be lazy and lie on the sofa.
You can either watch the news.
Or read a good book to improve your mindset and knowledge about life.
Right now, someone is making the most of life.
Of course, none of us know exactly who.
But why can’t that person be you?
Or take happiness.
Someone right now is the happiest person in the world.
There’s no reason why that person can’t be you, either.
Seneca said that time is the only commodity we can never get back.
And it certainly is true.
When I waste money, I get incredibly annoyed at myself.
Strangely enough, I get more annoyed when I waste money than when I waste time.
Which is ludicrous because time is much more valuable than money.
If time is going to pass anyway, how do we slow it down?
We can’t, but we can use time productively or unproductively.
I define wasted time as this.
Anything that takes you away from what you need to do to be the best version of yourself possible wastes time.
Pray on your own mortality.
It sounds morbid to do this, but it works.
Realise deeply that you could die at any moment (and eventually you will).
Now, come back to the real world, take what’s left of your life, and live it properly.
How do we make the most out of the time allotted to us?
We stay present in the moment.
We don’t get distracted.
We don’t do one thing while thinking of the million other things we need to do.
For example, do you ever get lost in your thoughts?
So much that someone needs to wake you up from your trance?
I know I’ve been there.
The mind is a fireball, and your ego (false sense of self) gets stronger with every thought.
If you’re not careful, your mind will eat you alive.
Look at all the people that have sadly committed suicide.
This is because of the ego.
The whirlwind of negative thoughts completely takes over the host.
And this is why it’s essential to detach from your thoughts and feelings.
There is no better sense of peace than being fully in the present moment and free from your mind.
When your mind takes over, you waste your life.
Because you’re not really living, you’re trapped in your mind.
But when you break free of the chains of the ego.
That’s where living really happens.
I know it isn’t easy to stay present, but you can do it.
I still struggle with it at times.
But the main thing is that you keep trying your best to be as present as possible.
Eventually, you’ll get it.
Your mind is a tool.
And you’re in control of it.
And most importantly, make sure you are living a life you truly want.
And not living one that:
Society wants.
Your friends want.
Your family want.
It needs to be you who chooses your life.
Life is so goddamn short as it is.
You need to use the time allocated to free yourself.
Not to be enslaved to someone else’s agenda.
And if you don’t know what life you want to live.
Then, read, read, read.
“The most important skill for getting rich is becoming a perpetual learner “- Naval Ravikant
And remember.
Procrastination isn’t such a bad thing.
Procrastination is your body and mind telling you that you dislike doing something.
Listen to it.
Don’t force yourself to do things that you don’t want to.
Remember, life is short.
It’s too short to spend your time doing things you hate.
The ultimate cheat code to never do anything you dislike is the ability to say no to things that don’t interest you or that you could easily do without.
And remember, if you feel like you’re lost in life or that you are not where you’re meant to be yet, remember this quote:
“Life really does begin at forty. Up until then, you are just doing research.“ – Carl Jung
Decide what you want out of your life.
And go after it.
Yes, you might find out that this goal no longer interests you.
But that’s information.
A bad plan is a million times better than no plan.
If you make a bad decision, at least you will know what you don’t want in life.
But this method takes trial and error.
And most people aren’t willing to fail.
As a rule of thumb you need to be willing to fail to also be willing to succeed.
Because if you fail enough times, you’ll eventually succeed.
It’s really that simple.
And if you’re scared to fail.
Don’t be.
It’s a sign you’re progressing.
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Delete their number, old pictures and text messages. If they want to contact you they will let you know.
Become the best version of yourself, you’ll naturally attract better potential partners if you’re trying to improve yourself. No one wants to be in a relationship with a loser.
Dont be needy, sometimes when you come out of a relationship, you feel downtrodden and because of this you may feel like getting straight back into another relationship is the answer. Its not. Be careful who you pick as your spouse. Be sure to go out with them because you want to not because you feel lacking emotionally.
Feel whatever emotions you have deeply they will eventually pass.
Engage in hobbies and activities you enjoy when you are engaged in hobbies you enjoy you wont feel sad or lonely because you’ll be enthralled in what you’re doing.
Get out of the house, exercise or take a walk. Too often when we stay in the house and ponder things we ruminate and it makes us feel worse. Get outside and blow those cobwebs of the mind away.
Spend time with friends and family, there’s no better feeling than having a good laugh with friends and family it will pull you out of your slump.
Read. When we read we stop focusing on our thoughts and feelings and instead focus on the words on a page, reading helps me get in a trace sort of state, it’s saved me more times than I can remember. No matter what happens in my life I know I have good books to read. So I’ll be happy.
Be Happy They’re Gone
You had some good times.
You had some memories that will last forever.
They were just part of one chapter in your life.
And although you may have loved each other.
You didn’t love each other enough.
And that’s okay.
When my romantic relationships have ended in the past.
Especially when I’ve been the one getting dumped.
I’ve blamed myself.
Thoughts like these have came to mind:
Was it that thing I did or didn’t do that caused her to break up with me?
Why wasn’t I good enough?
Maybe I’ll just be single forever.
Where instead it’s more practical to:
Take what you can from the relationship experience, and if you feel you made mistakes, apply the lessons learned to future relationships.
Ensure you don’t blame yourself. If the relationship was going to work, it would have. And all relationships go through challenges. If your relationship ended at the first sign of challenges, then it was never the right relationship.
Make sure you carefully screen through future potential partners.
It’s very unlikely that the first person you date after breaking up with your ex will be the one.
You might meet your dream spouse on the first date of newly being single or the 100th.
It doesn’t really matter.
But what does matter is having no doubts about making someone your girlfriend.
Or boyfriend depending on your gender or sexual orientation.
Screening for the right partner is crucial.
You need to be very serious about screening your future potential partner.
Because if you don’t it could cause many issues in the future.
The most important thing to have with your spouse is not love.
Its compatibility.
If you’re not compatible with your spouse the relationship will eventually end.
For example, to be compatible with your spouse, you must have similar worldviews and values (if you’re religious, then sharing the same religion is vital).
Love Is A Choice
The key to lasting relationships is the shared commitment to making the decision to love one another unconditionally.
When love is conditional, i.e. based on whether you have x amount of money or x car or x size penis, it’s the worst love of all.
There’s a reason that many rich and famous athletes and celebrities choose to stay in a relationship with their high school sweethearts.
It’s because they know their spouse’s love is genuine and unconditional.
They loved each other when they were at their worst.
And now they love each other when they’re at their best.
As a rule of thumb: if you’re willing to love someone through the good times you need to be just as accepting and loving to them through the bad times ( which is often much more difficult).
The true test of one’s character is how they respond to challenges.
Do they rise to the occasion?
Or do they lose hope and give up?
We need to be the type of people who turns challenges into triumphs.
And this is the type of spouse we should look for as well.
Whatever happens in your life.
Try to respond to it like you chose life to happen that way.
It’s a much more helpful way of dealing with the world and people.
We need to be aware of specific laws of human nature because not being aware of them can cause us problems.
Human nature can be ugly. But it can also be used to our advantage.
The first step is awareness.
Here are the 18 laws: in brackets is my description of the laws.
Master your emotional self (develop emotional intelligence).
Transform self-love into empathy ( Get into the minds of others).
See through people’s masks (look beyond the surface). ( A kitchen may seem tidy, but the cupboards can be a mess. First impressions can be misleading).
Determine the strength of people’s character ( how they respond in difficult times is a good way to test their character).
Become an Elusive object to desire.
Elevate your perspective ( be objective and see things how they are).
Soften people’s resistance by confirming their self-opinion.
Change your circumstances by changing your attitude (mindset is everything).
Confront your dark side.
Beware the fragile ego.
Know your limits.
Reconnect to the masculine or feminine within you.
Advance with a sense of purpose (know where you’re going).
Resist the downward pull of the group (beware of the crabs in the bucket mentality; the gravest sin a crab can make is to escape the bucket).
Make them want to follow you (lead by example).
See the hostility behind the friendly facade (beware of the Trojan horse).
Seize the historical moment (exploit opportunities, the biggest of all being the internet).
Meditate on our common mortality (realise deeply that you can die at any moment and let this thought push you to squeeze the juice out of life).
I will focus on the takeaways I’ve saved from the book that had the most significant impact on me.
1.”What if we could look deep inside and judge people’s character, avoiding the bad hires and personal relationships that cause us so much emotional damage?”
Robert talks about the fact that people have two sides to them: their true selves and the facade they want to show you. Because most people seem pleasant at first, they say all the right things.
Anyone can put on a facade. We need to judge a person’s character deeply before getting involved with them romantically or professionally.
In my last relationship, my ex seemed amazing at first. She knew exactly what to say to get me on her side. I should have seen the red flags when she said she loved me more than anything after two weeks. No one falls for someone this easily. She only showed me affection and gave me words of affirmation because she knew that I’d like it. In essence, she did it to influence me. She wasn’t honest at all about what she was saying. She loved bombed me.
The love bombing got worse, and I was slowly manipulated even more to the point I was with her almost 24/7, and she would be upset if I said I wanted my own space. She even tried to stop me from going out with my friends. The relationship ended badly, but it was the best thing that could have happened, although it caused a lot of pain and suffering.
All of the pain and suffering could have been avoided if I had really tried to judge her character before getting intimate with her.
So my takeaway is this: Be very careful who you choose to spend your life with or who you hire (especially for a highly responsible role). Choosing the right person has a huge upside, but choosing the wrong person can be detrimental.
2. “I do not ask the wounded person how he feels … I myself become the wounded person.” –Walt Whitman
It is human nature to be narcissistic and self-centred. But what’s the best response to this? To turn that into empathy for others, focus on helping others instead of only yourself.
That’s why I write and give to charity.
Helping others is the primary reason we’re on this earth, in my opinion.
We need to see things from others’ points of view and empathise with them.
It’s the most human thing to do.
Recently, I started going to therapy.
My therapist listened. She deeply understood where I was coming from and how abnormal some of the things I dealt with growing up were.
One example of this was the fact that my mum had been in and out of psychiatric hospitals since I was three to when I was a teenager, and I always found it challenging to get to grips with (being without a mother for a long period during my formative years, although I still love my mum a lot and know she couldn’t help it).
My therapist empathised with me; it was one of the best feelings I’ve ever had.
I felt recognised and heard.
A good friend can also do this. I do have some friends with whom I can discuss these issues.
The key is to love your neighbour like yourself.
I recommend everyone try therapy to see if it helps them; it definitely helps me. I may write an article about therapy at some point.
3. “At last I have what I wanted. Am I happy? Not really. But what’s missing? My soul no longer has that piquant activity conferred by desire … Oh, we shouldn’t delude ourselves—pleasure isn’t in the fulfillment, but in the pursuit. “—Pierre-Augustin Caron de Beaumarchais
Whatever goal we choose, we must be internally motivated to achieve it. For example, I mostly read and write only about things that interest me, and that could help others.
I don’t pursue things that bore me. Otherwise, it would be impossible to pursue them.
I like Charles Bukowski’s advice on this. He says that to be a good writer, you shouldn’t have to try.
And I understand what he means.
By the same token, procrastination so often demonised can be helpful.
When we procrastinate, our bodies and minds tell us to stay away from things that bore us.
We need to listen to ourselves. Don’t bypass what your body and mind are trying to tell you.
Suppose we pursue what we are interested in out of curiosity and enjoyment. In that case, no matter how successful or unsuccessful we are in the pursuit, it won’t matter because we’ll have found enjoyment in it.
For many people, writing is a chore.
But for me, writing and reading are their own rewards.
4.”With relationships, we can spend our life searching for the perfect man or woman and end up largely alone. There is nobody perfect. Instead, it is better to come to terms with the flaws of the other person and accept them or even find some charm in their weaknesses.”
As I’ve already mentioned, choosing the right spouse is extremely important.
But remember, we’re all deeply flawed individuals.
You and I have our faults, as will our spouse or future spouse.
The key is to determine what we’re willing to put up with.
If someone has a goofy nature that some look down upon but you think is quite sweet, great.
It is better to look for the good in every person.
But some things are completely unacceptable.
i.e. emotional and physical abuse.
Sorry to state the obvious.
5. “In the end what you really must covet is a deeper relationship to reality, which will bring you calmness, focus, and practical powers to alter what it is possible to alter.”
It’s essential to deal with the world as it is rather than how you want it to be.
Maybe things haven’t gone your way in the past, and you resent the world for it.
Sometimes, I ponder on how I wish things were different.
But it’s not practical to think like this.
Theodore Roosevelt said, “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
This is the best way to approach life.
6. “The years teach much which the days never know.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson
What skill do you want to master? Maybe it’s writing, maybe it’s powerlifting, maybe it’s playing an instrument, or even becoming a Grandmaster at chess.
You won’t achieve anything in a matter of days, but progress is almost certain in years and decades.
Some other quotes that I made notes of:
“On dealing with people with a hostile attitude- In dealing with the extremes of this type, struggle as best you can to not respond with the antagonism they expect. Maintain your neutrality. This will confound them and temporarily put a stop to the game they are playing.”
When we react, we relinquish power. When we maintain self-control, we are most powerful.
“The best way to handle recurrent depression is to channel your energies into work, especially the arts. You are used to withdrawing and being alone; use such time to tap into your unconscious. Externalise your unusual sensitivity and your dark feelings into the work itself.”
Expression is the opposite of depression.
“You do not need to be so humble and self-effacing in this world. Such humility is not a virtue but is rather a value that people promote to help keep you down. Whatever you are doing now, you are in fact capable of much more, and by thinking that, you will create a very different dynamic.”
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1. Good Quality Sleep Is Everything. Have A Good Sleep Routine So You Don’t Have To Endure Days, Months, And Years Of Tiredness.
I used to go to bed very late and get up early, only to catch up on sleep at the weekend because I was so tired.
When I switched to having a good sleeping pattern and getting 8 hours of sleep per night, I noticed several benefits, such as:
Better workouts ( I was stronger).
I would be less irritable ( Lack of sleep causes an increase in your cortisol levels, which is your stress hormone). Getting enough sleep will prevent your body from spiking your cortisol levels; losing weight and being on a low-calorie diet can also spike cortisol levels.
I’m more productive and can generally work harder for longer and produce better content.
I don’t feel like binging on junk food. When you don’t get enough sleep, and your cortisol levels spike, you can stress eat a load of junk. When you get enough sleep, avoiding junk food binges is easier.
2. You Will Never Grow In Your Comfort Zone. Do Things That Scare You, And Your Life Will Improve. Conquer Your Fears.
I used to be a bit of a pussy, and I still am sometimes when it comes to some things (giant spiders).
Nevertheless, I used to depend so much on my parents for many things, such as:
Food.
Cleaning my clothes.
Doing chores around the house and many more things.
Three years ago, I moved into my house, and everything was my responsibility.
Yes, taking responsibility is scary.
But taking responsibility means you’re in the driving seat.
And it’s better to be in control of your destiny than not.
This is just one example of going out of my comfort zone.
Some other things that I’ve done which have helped me escape my comfort zone are:
I worked at Kentucky Fried Chicken as a young adult. I’ve always been a relatively quiet person—not the quietest in the room, but one of them. So, being in a customer-facing role really helped me improve my confidence in myself. It made me feel confident talking to anyone.
Becoming a volunteer police officer- This role made me massively go out of my comfort zone. In this role, I had to arrest people and go to domestic and other violent incidents. The scary but exciting thing about this role is that you never know how your day will pan out. You might start your shift at 8 am and then get a call where you go on a blue light run, and you never know how bad the situation will be until you arrive. Thankfully, most of the situations police officers deal with are manageable.
Going on a solo trip to Rome – Last week, I went on a trip to Rome for 5 days. It was amazing. I saw the Colosseum, Pantheon, Vatican and more. It’s my favourite city to date. I recommend that everyone goes there at some point in their life. With me being on a solo trip, everything was my responsibility. I needed to learn bits of Italian to speak to locals, I had to learn how to use the local bus service, and it was up to me to maximise the experience, and I did. The benefit of going on a solo holiday is that you can do precisely what you want. You don’t have to follow someone else’s itinerary. It’s up to you completely. Although I did do a bit too much walking on the last day ( 35k steps), I was limping around the airport like an idiot on the way home due to hurting my little toe from all the walking.
3. Spend More Time Choosing Your House. It’s A Massive Decision.
I moved out of my parents’ house three years ago and into my own. I made the mistake of not getting a thorough survey done, which meant I had to pay to get some work done on my roof due to a leak. I also believe I could have found somewhere better. I do like my home, but I feel like if I had been a bit more patient and diligent, I could have found a more suitable home.
4. Be Careful Who You Choose As Your Spouse.
In the past 2 years, I’ve had two relationships lasting a year each. And after my last break-up, I felt terrible. My problem was getting with pretty much the first person I was dating. Now, I’ll likely have to date several people before finding the one because, as a rule of thumb, most people won’t be compatible with you or me. I’m okay being single for now. I don’t want to force anything. But by being in two relationships I should have never been in, I wasted a lot of time and energy, and I lost myself in those relationships. I changed my personality to appease the women I had. Your partner should accept you for who you are or break up with you. You should never have to change yourself for someone else. If someone tries to change you, I’m sorry to say they do not want you. They want someone else.
5. Travel When You Are Fit, Healthy, And Young. It’s Much Better To Do It Before Your Body Inevitably Fails.
How many people do you know who never made it to retirement? I can think of quite a few people off the top of my head.
Many people wait for the perfect moment to travel or insert any other experience.
Travelling is best when you’re healthy and have plenty of youth. It’s better to travel in your youth to middle age than when you’re on a mobility scooter.
6. Don’t Lift Too Much Weight In The Gym. It’s Not Worth Getting Injured.
For a year, I had chronic wrist pain and was probably the most stressed I’d ever been in my life. I tried everything to fix my wrist for a year, but nothing helped. Luckily, I saw a highly experienced surgeon, and he surgically repaired the cartilage in my wrist. I’ve learned that no one cares how big and strong you are, and even if a small percentage do, I’d rather have my health than have hundreds of kilograms of weight on my back. The primary reason to lift weights is to get healthy. In my opinion, when health gets forgotten about, that’s when bad things start to happen. The stats show that 1 million people are on steroids in the United Kingdom. That’s one million people destroying their bodies for “aesthetics” (looks)
7. Pursue A Meaningful, Not Expedient, Career.
As my day job, I work in financial services, but my goal is to become a writer as well. I am happy in my role and enjoy it (it is the best job I’ve ever had and allows me to explore my passions outside work). I love writing even if I don’t get paid because it allows me to connect with and help others with my content. Nothing bad can happen from taking up writing. And if you haven’t tried it, I recommend you try it and see if you enjoy it. I love to read, so writing seems natural to me. Reading and writing provide my life with a tremendous amount of meaning. What is something that you’ve always fancied having a go at? It might be writing, making videos, farming or whatever tickles your fancy; there are infinite options. Choose wisely.
8. I Should’ve Started Reading And Writing Earlier In Life. By Doing So, I Would’ve Become A Better Communicator And Helped More People.
I’ve always read somewhat but only really got deeply into reading and writing in the past 10 years. I’ve written on and off for the past few years, but I aim to be more consistent from now on.
What Things Have You Learned The Hard Way?
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People who don’t work rely on benefits and social security.
Next, there are people who work. They collect a paycheck and then go home. They don’t work too hard and are content in their jobs.
Then you get the hard workers. These are the types of people who succeed in organisations and climb the corporate ladder.
The person at the top of the ladder is the person who works hard and smart. He chooses his career based on what he finds personally fulfilling, builds his competence to a level of mastery, and because he’s the best at what he does, his services are in high demand.
Because his abilities are scarce, few people can do what he does, so he can choose whenever he works and command a handsome fee for his services.
I think becoming a hard yet smart worker is the ultimate goal.
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Experiencing the world and different activities. If you never try anything new, it will be impossible to find what you enjoy.
Going out of your comfort zone. I recently flew to Rome, a place I’ve always wanted to go to, and I went solo. It helped me build so much confidence in myself.
Eating healthily and working out. True happiness is being in impeccable health.
Reading. When you read, you learn about some of the most interesting people who have graced this earth. It’s safe to say we can learn how to be happy from exceptional people. My favourite books are Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations, Principles by Ray Dalio and Benjamin Franklin’s Biography, An American Life. They taught me and helped me look at life through a different paradigm.
Happiness is in doing things, not achieving things. For example, I love to read and write. No matter how many people read my posts or books I read, I love reading and writing, so I’ll continuously pursue them for their own sake.
Don’t smoke, overdrink or do drugs. Never let anything or anyone overly infiltrate and compromise your mind. It’s all you have. I’ve done some of the most stupid and regretful things when I’ve been drunk.
Engage in hobbies. We all like different things; experiment with hobbies, and you’ll eventually find hobbies you enjoy. Having activities we regularly do that we enjoy makes us happier.
Get 8 hours of deep, quality sleep every night. This is the most underrated tip of all time.
Change how you view negative situations and stressors. We can’t be happy all the time. Negative emotions serve a purpose; they help us avoid situations that we shouldn’t get involved in, and they’re just as important as positive emotions. For example, in poetry, writing, and music, some of the best artistic endeavours have come from a place of melancholic emotions. Art wouldn’t be so beautiful if only filled with positive emotions and fake smiles.
Socialise. There’s no better sense of happiness than laughing with friends and family.
Direct your life to some overall meaning. Whether that’s the goal of being an artist, a police officer, or a doctor, whatever it is, having something you’re aiming for in your life helps you get through the bad times because he who has a reason to live can get through any how.
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