3. Work on yourself to become the best version of yourself possible.
4. Put your time into your hobbies and passions.
5. Accept your complicated feelings of loss and grief. It’s normal and will get better with time.
6. Don’t get back into a relationship straight away. You’ll probably only get with them out of neediness and infatuation, not love.
7. Realise that the relationship has ended for a reason. If one person doesn’t want to be in a relationship with the other, it’s unfair for both parties because no one wants to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with them, and no one should feel forced to be in an unhappy relationship.
8. Cry if you have to.
9. Learn from it. This experience will make you stronger. Like the hydra, one of your heads has been cut off (figuratively speaking), and many more will grow back, so you’re even stronger.
10. Go to talking therapy if you feel it will help. I’m currently going through therapy now. And I find it’s helping.
11. Spend time with friends and family.
12. Do things you enjoy. When you’re engaged in something you enjoy, negative feelings will disappear for some time. It’s impossible to feel depressed when you’re fully engaged and enjoy what you’re doing.
13. Get out of the house, go for walks, work out at the gym, and run if you like.
14. Get out of your comfort zone, try new experiences, etc. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend in September, and I’m thinking about going on a solo holiday soon.
15. Remember, nothing can happen that isn’t natural.
17. Many people have gotten through tough times like this and if we can you can to.
16. This is all part of God’s plan. You’re built to get through it.
A few years ago, I wasn’t feeling too good about myself, and I’d been single for several years, so because I’d been single for so long, I thought the answer to my pain was to get into a romantic relationship, so I decided to download the dating app Hinge, and I got swiping.
After a couple of months on Hinge, I’d been on one date where the woman I met up with looked nothing like her dating profile pictures, as those pictures were taken years ago, so on the date with her, I prematurely ended it, and she texted me saying, “I’m sorry I wasn’t what you were expecting.” And I don’t think I replied.
The second date was with a woman who did look like her dating profile pictures. We seemingly hit it off on the first date, though, looking back, I came across as desperate and needy. I was basically begging to go out with her again. If I could tell my old self one thing now, it would be “Have some self-respect.”
Anyway, we went on a second date, and it was ok, but I ended up meeting her mum and her mum’s boyfriend, which seems unusual on the second date. Thinking about it now, it’s better to introduce each other to families when the relationship takes on a more serious tone.
We kept dating, and eventually I begged her to become my girlfriend, and she hesitantly said yes. And when we had our first kiss, it was the most awkward kiss imaginable. I’m surprised we both let this relationship go on so long, but we did.
The whole relationship turned out to be a strange one. We were never right for each other, and even though deep down I knew this, I still tried to be the perfect partner, apart from that one time I went to the strip club, which was difficult to tell her, but she wasnt really that bothered when I confessed.
I digress, what I’m trying to say is she didn’t particularly add anything to my life, yet I tried to add lots to hers by buying her gifts and taking her out for nice meals like fine dining (which I can’t stand).
Now I know why I was so desperate; it was because I was looking outwards for happiness and validation, which is the worst thing you can do, because you can’t rely on anyone else but yourself for your happiness.
The Stoic Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius said:
“Yes, keep on degrading yourself, soul. But soon your chance at dignity will be gone. Everyone gets one life. Yours is almost used up, and instead of treating yourself with respect, you have entrusted your own happiness to the souls of others.”
When I first read that quote, I thought that it was astonishing to read that one of the greatest emperors of all time struggled with what I struggle with, which is looking outwards for happiness. When we rely on others opinions and words for happiness how can we not be unhappy?
Remember that you are dust and to dust you shall return
I’m writing this post on Wednesday, the 18th of February and this morning I went to church to celebrate Ash Wednesday, and the priest said to me, “Remember that you are dust and to dust you shall return”.
It’s good to remember this whenever we put someone else’s opinion on a pedestal above our own, because just as we are dust, so are they. And the only favour/grace we should seek is God’s, because if we don’t, we run the risk of treating other people like gods. If we get too arrogant about our own opinions and viewpoints, we make the gravest mistake: turning ourselves into gods.
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I’m writing this post on Saturday, the 7th February 2026, and I’ve just got back from going to Mass at my local church.
Over the past several months, I’ve been going through a process to become Catholic.
And praying every day and going to mass on the weekend have made me feel better spiritually.
I’m joining an institution that has been going for 2000 years.
Not only that, but the social aspect of going to church has helped a lot.
I just got talking to an older man named Joe and had a good conversation with him at church.
I’ve also got to know the priests and deacons, and I’m learning a lot about theology and philosophy.
Religion is growing in South America but declining in the West
I think this is a shame.
Because religion helps bind people together through shared values.
Around one in two adults in the US struggles with chronic loneliness.
And in 2025, the World Health Organisation (WHO) declared loneliness a pressing global health threat.
I think those stats prove we’re in a loneliness epidemic.
I have 2 close friends, but I don’t often see them
For the past several years, I’ve had two main friends, but I’m lucky if I see them once a month.
I don’t expect people to be there for me at the drop of a hat, because it’s difficult for me to do that for others, bearing in mind my obligations.
It’s just made me think I need to make new friends.
And since regularly going to church, I’m starting to meet new people.
Luckily, I have my parents
I see my parents several times per week, and I know they’re always there for me, which is nice.
But if I didn’t have them, I’d spend more of my time alone or maybe force myself even more to meet new people.
I’ve definitely been lonely
I experience loneliness as a feeling of melancholy, and I start overthinking and get into a self-loathing frame of mind.
When I socialise with people, it brings me out of myself and stops that harmful habit of focusing exclusively on myself and self-loathing.
We’re more connected than ever
Even though we have social media and can talk to anyone anytime, fewer people are socialising in person.
And even though we can contact anyone anytime, via call or text, they’re nothing like in-person interactions.
Essentially, because we have social media, we know we can contact people whenever we want, so we don’t.
How I’m going to try to meet more new people
I’m going to start attending more church-related events.
Also, if there are some groups related to a hobby that interests me, I may join them.
Groups such as writing or running groups.
I’m naturally introverted
Meeting new people doesn’t come easily to me.
It’s something I’m going to have to work at.
Because, naturally, I can spend most of my time on my own without feeling down.
My tolerance for loneliness is relatively high.
This got me in trouble in my last romantic relationship.
I wanted more “Me time”, and my ex took that badly and assumed I didn’t want to spend time with her.
Even though loneliness is a modern disease, don’t associate with just anyone
Some people we meet are wonderful, and some people are degenerates.
You mustn’t make anyone your friend.
Assess their character first, and then make them your friend if you’re confident they’re good people.
Most people make the mistake of befriending someone and assessing their character later.
Better to never become friends with someone than have to break up the friendship.
It’s better to be alone than be with the wrong spouse or befriend the wrong person
I’m fully aware that being alone all the time is bad for you. But don’t assume I’m telling you to be friends with anyone or get into a romantic relationship with anyone.
The key is to befriend people / have a spouse who enhances your life and vice versa.
There’s no point in befriending a degenerate who brings you down to their level.
Protect yourself.
You are responsible for who you choose as your friends or spouse.
In my own life, I’ve discovered that committing myself to people who haven’t been good for me has caused me many problems.
In my teens, I had a group of friends who liked to smoke weed. When I would go out with them, it was all they’d ever do.
Going out to sit in remote places and smoke weed was not something I could see myself doing.
So what did I do? I stopped associating with these so-called friends. They weren’t good for me, and engaging with these types of people only made me a worse and less effective person.
I said no to going out with these friends. I broke off my friendship commitment, which was the right thing to do.
Committing To The Wrong Spouse
In my first relationship in high school, my girlfriend snooped around my back and talked to and met up with her ex ( doing things with him sexually that I won’t go into detail about).
I committed to the wrong person, and ending this relationship gave me more power over my life.
In my second relationship, several years later, I again was with the wrong person, and her happiness depended on how much I spent on her.
Again, when I left this relationship, I had more power over my life.
Finally, my last relationship that ended several months ago was tough.
There was a lot of emotional abuse going on. She would isolate me from my friends and go into my phone behind my back and not respect my boundaries at all. She was so intense about not respecting my boundaries that it felt like I could hardly breathe.
When this relationship ended, I went from having no agency over my life to having absolute power over it.
I’m Not Saying Don’t Commit To Anyone Ever
But what I am saying is only commit to people whom you trust.
Trust is something that develops over time.
If you and I became friends for a couple of years, and I always did what I said I would do, and I was always a good friend and a helpful hand during difficult times, then I’m guessing you would trust me quite a bit.
What I’m Planning On Doing Before I Commit To Another Romantic Relationship
I want to build a strong platonic relationship with someone first.
I want her to respect my boundaries.
I want us to get on well emotionally and intellectually.
I want us to genuinely enjoy each other’s company.
Only when these criteria are satisfied will I even think about a romantic relationship.
Ideally, I want a romantic relationship to ensue as a byproduct of a strong platonic friendship.
Because that’s what true romantic love is.
A lifelong friendship.
Committing To The Wrong Spouse, Friends, Or Even Job Can Have Disastrous Consequences
Committing to the wrong spouse can cause divorce.
Committing to the wrong friend group can bring you down to their subpar level. It’s better to be friends with people who are actively trying to be better; this will rub off on you.
Committing to the wrong job can cause depression and neuroses.
How To Not Commit To The Wrong People And Things
Say no.
But this only works if you have something better to focus on, something more worthwhile.
“Writer Justine Musk reminds us that in order to say no with consistency and generosity, we need to have something to say “yes” to. “ – Seth Godin.
I’ll give you an example of what I say yes to that helps me say no to the wrong people and things.
I say yes to reading good literature and writing ( hence why I’m writing this blog post).
I say yes to my family and friends, whom I greatly love.
I don’t have a big family. I mainly only see my mam and dad, and sometimes my sister and I have two or three close friends.
I say yes to working out and going on walks.
What I say yes to is the foundation that enables me to say no to the wrong things.
The goal is to say yes to the right things so you don’t say yes to the wrong things.
Whatever doesn’t align with your specially chosen goals should be a no.
The Bottom Line
Don’t commit to the wrong people or things in life. Be wise; don’t rush into commitments. Only commit to people who have earned your trust and favour and whom you truly respect and admire. If you’re in doubt about making a commitment, don’t make it. It’s better to have no commitments than to have the wrong commitments. To be committed to the wrong things is to relinquish a degree of power over your life.
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Have as much fucking fun as possible because what’s the point of living if you never have fun? Don’t wait to have fun; life is short enough.
Investing in the stock market, i.e., index funds. If you invest 10% of your monthly wage, you’ll be a millionaire in 30–40 years.
Getting in the best shape possible. Socrates said, “It is a disgrace for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” Why would you not want to look and feel your best?
Going on daily walks, even just 30 minutes per day, is the most effective stress buster I know. Aristotle, Friedrich Nietzsche, and many other great minds included daily walks in their routines.
Speaking to friends and family, and building and maintaining relationships. Even just texting one person per day goes a long way. Isolation kills, and no man is an island, so reach out to others.
Having a side hustle. If you’ve got a consistent job, great, but there’s no harm in putting your effort into something on the side—it may even be writing. If you’re a success, great, but if you aren’t, you’ve got a job anyway to support you, and as you’re investing, you’ll eventually be rich anyway.
Investing in yourself. I know this is cliche, but it’s true, the more you know, the more you can do, and the more you can do, the more opportunities you’ll have to succeed. Read good literature, take courses, etc. Once you have the know-how, remember to take action.
Travel—You want to travel when you look and feel your best. You don’t want to travel when you’re old, fragile, and frail. It’s better to travel when health isn’t an obstacle.
Quitting bad habits ie smoking, heavy drinking and watching porn. You can cause lots of damage to your brain and body if you never break these habits. Cut yourself free of them asap.
Cut your credit cards in half and avoid lending except when buying a house with a mortgage. You do not want to pay the extortionate interest that credit cards charge; investing that spare capital is better.
Walk along the beach and hike mountains. There’s nothing better than being one with nature.
Petting a dog or cat, I find this very relaxing. A dog is a man’s best friend, whereas cats are, in my opinion, just as friendly and make great companions, although it depends on the dog/ cat you have.
Enjoy good food, especially by trying foods from different cultures. If you’re a fussy eater, stop—you’re missing out on one of life’s greatest pleasures.
Go skiing, it’s something I love to do; last time I went, I skied down a black run in Les Arcs, France, and must have fallen about 20 feet down the slope; it was terrifying at the time, but I’ve lived to see another day. Life’s boring without some near-death experiences (I’m joking), but skiing is an adventure, and life’s about adventures.
Go to concerts. One of the greatest feelings is when you’re at a concert and singing the lyrics alongside thousands of others, thoroughly enjoying the moment. I’ve seen the Arctic Monkeys, Kasabian, the Stone Roses, Foo Fighters, and many more. Definitely experience live music before you die.
Finding the right spouse, although easier said than done, many people end up settling for someone they shouldn’t be with for convenience; the most potent reason to be with someone is simply loving their company. Another thing I’ve learned is that when you date someone, take them at face value; don’t expect them to change or be anything other than they already are. Sometimes, we build up people in our minds, and who we think they are usually turns out not to be true. Don’t see them as anything else other than what they are.
Delete their number, old pictures and text messages. If they want to contact you they will let you know.
Become the best version of yourself, you’ll naturally attract better potential partners if you’re trying to improve yourself. No one wants to be in a relationship with a loser.
Dont be needy, sometimes when you come out of a relationship, you feel downtrodden and because of this you may feel like getting straight back into another relationship is the answer. Its not. Be careful who you pick as your spouse. Be sure to go out with them because you want to not because you feel lacking emotionally.
Feel whatever emotions you have deeply they will eventually pass.
Engage in hobbies and activities you enjoy when you are engaged in hobbies you enjoy you wont feel sad or lonely because you’ll be enthralled in what you’re doing.
Get out of the house, exercise or take a walk. Too often when we stay in the house and ponder things we ruminate and it makes us feel worse. Get outside and blow those cobwebs of the mind away.
Spend time with friends and family, there’s no better feeling than having a good laugh with friends and family it will pull you out of your slump.
Read. When we read we stop focusing on our thoughts and feelings and instead focus on the words on a page, reading helps me get in a trace sort of state, it’s saved me more times than I can remember. No matter what happens in my life I know I have good books to read. So I’ll be happy.
Be Happy They’re Gone
You had some good times.
You had some memories that will last forever.
They were just part of one chapter in your life.
And although you may have loved each other.
You didn’t love each other enough.
And that’s okay.
When my romantic relationships have ended in the past.
Especially when I’ve been the one getting dumped.
I’ve blamed myself.
Thoughts like these have came to mind:
Was it that thing I did or didn’t do that caused her to break up with me?
Why wasn’t I good enough?
Maybe I’ll just be single forever.
Where instead it’s more practical to:
Take what you can from the relationship experience, and if you feel you made mistakes, apply the lessons learned to future relationships.
Ensure you don’t blame yourself. If the relationship was going to work, it would have. And all relationships go through challenges. If your relationship ended at the first sign of challenges, then it was never the right relationship.
Make sure you carefully screen through future potential partners.
It’s very unlikely that the first person you date after breaking up with your ex will be the one.
You might meet your dream spouse on the first date of newly being single or the 100th.
It doesn’t really matter.
But what does matter is having no doubts about making someone your girlfriend.
Or boyfriend depending on your gender or sexual orientation.
Screening for the right partner is crucial.
You need to be very serious about screening your future potential partner.
Because if you don’t it could cause many issues in the future.
The most important thing to have with your spouse is not love.
Its compatibility.
If you’re not compatible with your spouse the relationship will eventually end.
For example, to be compatible with your spouse, you must have similar worldviews and values (if you’re religious, then sharing the same religion is vital).
Love Is A Choice
The key to lasting relationships is the shared commitment to making the decision to love one another unconditionally.
When love is conditional, i.e. based on whether you have x amount of money or x car or x size penis, it’s the worst love of all.
There’s a reason that many rich and famous athletes and celebrities choose to stay in a relationship with their high school sweethearts.
It’s because they know their spouse’s love is genuine and unconditional.
They loved each other when they were at their worst.
And now they love each other when they’re at their best.
As a rule of thumb: if you’re willing to love someone through the good times you need to be just as accepting and loving to them through the bad times ( which is often much more difficult).
The true test of one’s character is how they respond to challenges.
Do they rise to the occasion?
Or do they lose hope and give up?
We need to be the type of people who turns challenges into triumphs.
And this is the type of spouse we should look for as well.
Whatever happens in your life.
Try to respond to it like you chose life to happen that way.
It’s a much more helpful way of dealing with the world and people.
1. Good Quality Sleep Is Everything. Have A Good Sleep Routine So You Don’t Have To Endure Days, Months, And Years Of Tiredness.
I used to go to bed very late and get up early, only to catch up on sleep at the weekend because I was so tired.
When I switched to having a good sleeping pattern and getting 8 hours of sleep per night, I noticed several benefits, such as:
Better workouts ( I was stronger).
I would be less irritable ( Lack of sleep causes an increase in your cortisol levels, which is your stress hormone). Getting enough sleep will prevent your body from spiking your cortisol levels; losing weight and being on a low-calorie diet can also spike cortisol levels.
I’m more productive and can generally work harder for longer and produce better content.
I don’t feel like binging on junk food. When you don’t get enough sleep, and your cortisol levels spike, you can stress eat a load of junk. When you get enough sleep, avoiding junk food binges is easier.
2. You Will Never Grow In Your Comfort Zone. Do Things That Scare You, And Your Life Will Improve. Conquer Your Fears.
I used to be a bit of a pussy, and I still am sometimes when it comes to some things (giant spiders).
Nevertheless, I used to depend so much on my parents for many things, such as:
Food.
Cleaning my clothes.
Doing chores around the house and many more things.
Three years ago, I moved into my house, and everything was my responsibility.
Yes, taking responsibility is scary.
But taking responsibility means you’re in the driving seat.
And it’s better to be in control of your destiny than not.
This is just one example of going out of my comfort zone.
Some other things that I’ve done which have helped me escape my comfort zone are:
I worked at Kentucky Fried Chicken as a young adult. I’ve always been a relatively quiet person—not the quietest in the room, but one of them. So, being in a customer-facing role really helped me improve my confidence in myself. It made me feel confident talking to anyone.
Becoming a volunteer police officer- This role made me massively go out of my comfort zone. In this role, I had to arrest people and go to domestic and other violent incidents. The scary but exciting thing about this role is that you never know how your day will pan out. You might start your shift at 8 am and then get a call where you go on a blue light run, and you never know how bad the situation will be until you arrive. Thankfully, most of the situations police officers deal with are manageable.
Going on a solo trip to Rome – Last week, I went on a trip to Rome for 5 days. It was amazing. I saw the Colosseum, Pantheon, Vatican and more. It’s my favourite city to date. I recommend that everyone goes there at some point in their life. With me being on a solo trip, everything was my responsibility. I needed to learn bits of Italian to speak to locals, I had to learn how to use the local bus service, and it was up to me to maximise the experience, and I did. The benefit of going on a solo holiday is that you can do precisely what you want. You don’t have to follow someone else’s itinerary. It’s up to you completely. Although I did do a bit too much walking on the last day ( 35k steps), I was limping around the airport like an idiot on the way home due to hurting my little toe from all the walking.
3. Spend More Time Choosing Your House. It’s A Massive Decision.
I moved out of my parents’ house three years ago and into my own. I made the mistake of not getting a thorough survey done, which meant I had to pay to get some work done on my roof due to a leak. I also believe I could have found somewhere better. I do like my home, but I feel like if I had been a bit more patient and diligent, I could have found a more suitable home.
4. Be Careful Who You Choose As Your Spouse.
In the past 2 years, I’ve had two relationships lasting a year each. And after my last break-up, I felt terrible. My problem was getting with pretty much the first person I was dating. Now, I’ll likely have to date several people before finding the one because, as a rule of thumb, most people won’t be compatible with you or me. I’m okay being single for now. I don’t want to force anything. But by being in two relationships I should have never been in, I wasted a lot of time and energy, and I lost myself in those relationships. I changed my personality to appease the women I had. Your partner should accept you for who you are or break up with you. You should never have to change yourself for someone else. If someone tries to change you, I’m sorry to say they do not want you. They want someone else.
5. Travel When You Are Fit, Healthy, And Young. It’s Much Better To Do It Before Your Body Inevitably Fails.
How many people do you know who never made it to retirement? I can think of quite a few people off the top of my head.
Many people wait for the perfect moment to travel or insert any other experience.
Travelling is best when you’re healthy and have plenty of youth. It’s better to travel in your youth to middle age than when you’re on a mobility scooter.
6. Don’t Lift Too Much Weight In The Gym. It’s Not Worth Getting Injured.
For a year, I had chronic wrist pain and was probably the most stressed I’d ever been in my life. I tried everything to fix my wrist for a year, but nothing helped. Luckily, I saw a highly experienced surgeon, and he surgically repaired the cartilage in my wrist. I’ve learned that no one cares how big and strong you are, and even if a small percentage do, I’d rather have my health than have hundreds of kilograms of weight on my back. The primary reason to lift weights is to get healthy. In my opinion, when health gets forgotten about, that’s when bad things start to happen. The stats show that 1 million people are on steroids in the United Kingdom. That’s one million people destroying their bodies for “aesthetics” (looks)
7. Pursue A Meaningful, Not Expedient, Career.
As my day job, I work in financial services, but my goal is to become a writer as well. I am happy in my role and enjoy it (it is the best job I’ve ever had and allows me to explore my passions outside work). I love writing even if I don’t get paid because it allows me to connect with and help others with my content. Nothing bad can happen from taking up writing. And if you haven’t tried it, I recommend you try it and see if you enjoy it. I love to read, so writing seems natural to me. Reading and writing provide my life with a tremendous amount of meaning. What is something that you’ve always fancied having a go at? It might be writing, making videos, farming or whatever tickles your fancy; there are infinite options. Choose wisely.
8. I Should’ve Started Reading And Writing Earlier In Life. By Doing So, I Would’ve Become A Better Communicator And Helped More People.
I’ve always read somewhat but only really got deeply into reading and writing in the past 10 years. I’ve written on and off for the past few years, but I aim to be more consistent from now on.
What Things Have You Learned The Hard Way?
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Apply for jobs, no matter how beneath you they may seem. ( I used to be a pot washer for KFC.) You need to start somewhere.
Broke?
When you get your entry-level job, save at least 10% of your income every month until you have three months’ worth of income. This works well as a safety fund, which will support you if anything bad happens and you need to pay out sudden expenses. Once you have your safety fund, I’d start investing in the stock market, i.e., the S&P 500.
Miserable?
Start engaging in hobbies and activities that you enjoy for their own sake. I like reading, going on walks, playing chess, watching football, TV series, and films, and working out. You won’t have time to feel miserable when you’re engaged in activities you enjoy for their own sake.
Balding?
Join the club (the below picture shows my receding hairline).
Like many men I’ve faced this problem : it’s best to either shave your head, i.e., get a buzz cut, or get a hair transplant. Pick one. I don’t care enough about my hair to get a hair transplant; I’d rather put that money towards investments or a holiday.
Living with parents?
Use it to your advantage to try to climb the ladder in your entry-level role (even in jobs like working at Kentucky Fried Chicken KFC, you can earn a decent salary by climbing up the ladder), and eventually, you’ll earn enough money to rent your own place or maybe even buy your own house. While you’re living with your parents, you can save more, so make the most out of it.
Friendless?
Join meetup groups (ie meet up.com), and you’ll be able to meet like-minded people.
Pursue hobbies which will help you meet people who are interested in similar things to you. There are even apps where you can make friends. You could also reach out to some colleagues (when you get your job) or some old friends to rekindle old friendships.
Depressed and miserable?
Again, focus your energies on activities you enjoy. It’s almost impossible to feel depressed when you’re doing something you enjoy. If you feel miserable, maybe journal down why you feel that way. You may be able to untangle your mind on paper and find the root cause of your unhappiness. Once you know the root cause, you can take steps to become happier.
From experience, I’ve noticed that there is an unhealthy and healthy way to get over someone you love.
After my previous relationship ended, I deliberately avoided getting back into another relationship too soon.
And I’m still single.
There’s a reason for this.
If you’re getting into a relationship with someone to mask your feelings of loneliness and rejection, you’re getting with that person for the wrong reasons.
If they are the only reasons you get with someone, the relationship has no legs to stand on and will ultimately end ( and it will probably end badly, as most relationships do).
Instead, after breaking up with someone you love, work on being happy alone again. Then, when you’re ready for a relationship, be very picky about who you choose, only picking compatible potential partners.
I’m talking about partners who have a similar worldview and values to you, who you genuinely get on well with, someone who you’re 100% genuinely in to for their own sake.
My problem was that in my previous relationship, I only got with her because my ex before her broke up with me, and I felt insecure and like I wasn’t enough.
So I got with my ex to cover up this emotional hole, so to speak.
The only person who could cover up that emotional hole was myself.
So, the first takeaway is to give yourself time to process the feelings of the breakup and not get into a relationship with anyone immediately.
Secondly, use that time to find yourself, be the best version of yourself, and pursue your hobbies and curiosities. You’re single now. Pursue that freedom with zeal, and enjoy it.
Be very picky when you choose a spouse. If you’re with the wrong spouse, it can destroy your life. This is the most critical decision you ever make.
Spend time with friends and family and, most importantly, have fun and laugh. Now, no one is killing your vibe.
Determine your ideal partner and consider what type of man/woman you must become to attract that spouse.
Then, get to work on being that type of person.
Some hobbies that helped me get over my past relationships are :
Reading.
Writing.
Working out.
Going on walks.
Playing chess.
Meeting up for coffee and going on walks with friends.
Watching TV.
Cooking.
Playing video games.
Spending time with friends and family.
Taking on more responsibility at work.
Cleaning my house.
When you break up with someone, your ex leaves a vacuum in your life.
From experience, the primary way to get over your ex and fill that vacuum is to fill your time with hobbies and pursue worthwhile things.
And when you find the right person.
Try not to change yourself too much.
I know I’ve changed myself far too much in some relationships.
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